Absence does what?

So, I make it back home from TN in one piece. I'm thinking that if Joy is feeling okay, I'll be getting some tail...she wasn't feeling okay. No problem, I understand. Maybe the next day...tuesday comes and goes with na...da...
We talk. Not about the fact that I'd expected to have sex with my wife upon my return home from a trip where I was gone 4 days, but about the fact that we wanted to make changes to make each other happy. Some of the things we wanted/needed from one another. After the communication back and forth all day, I was anticipating that we would put what we'd been talking about into action...nunca! Honestly, I'm lost. I don't understand one single thing that's going on. I ask for sex more often, then don't get any? She says that she wants to make me happy and be the cause of my happiness not the reason for me being unsatisfied, then nothing! What the fuck is she waiting on? Damn, I wish I knew so I could move that shit along.

We've got a 4 day weekend, so we'll see what happens during this time...

During one of the conversations that I had, I mentioned to her that I didn't want to have to go elsewhere to find what I need and she shook her head like she understood. But I don't really think that she does. And I don't know what to do to let her know...cause it's truely a possibility. I'm a man, and I need things. If the shoe were on the other foot and I wasn't doing what I needed to I'd expect her to try and find it elsewhere. Honestly, I think I would encourage it. I would hate to be the source of anything that caused her displeasure or discontent...so, I figure that it would be better that I know she was going elsewhere for a particular need that to know I was causing/or the cause of her pain...

What the hell is a man to do? Just sit on my hands????????????????